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If you've read any of my articles in the past, you know that I'm not a doctor, I'm a wife, and a communicator by profession. My husband survived Prostate Cancer a little more than six years ago. We have experienced the before,during, and after procedure stress in our lives and our relationship. I write for inspiration, love, and hope for all who care to read what I offer.

Before procedures, everyone is worried about the outcome of the procedures. After the procedures, everyone has questions about the relationship, sex, and love. It can get confusing sometimes. Add to this confusion and frustrations about our bodies and aging with the fact that middle-aged women also are or will be dealing with menopausal and hormonal issues of their own and wow.....it's nuts.

A middle-aged wife might be getting more emotional than ever before. Her hormones and patience-level may leave lots to desire. If the man's physical state and emotional state are not the same as months or years previous, there's more joint stress.

My husband has spent lots of hours worrying after the surgery about my looks and my mental state. He worried, way too much about my being desirable and whether or not I would continue to want him. He worried about other men wanting me and whether I would cheat on him if he had problems? He worried about aging and about needing dentures.

Let's face it, medical procedures don't make you feel sexy unless you're augmenting something. Even then, you definitely don't feel sexy until after you've healed. Medical procedures are stressful because we are human.

You will have questions and you will probably worry and be scared about different things, but if you can tell your partner and discuss openly how to help each other, you will have a stronger connection. I wish you good luck and I send my love.

Lori Wilk, MBA, is a Las Vegas , motivational speaker, author, and host of the internet talk show "Successipes" at http://www.success-talk.com. If you enjoyed this article, syndicate me, add me to your web site, send me an e-mail, or go to http://www.loriwilkarticles.com .c.2007 Lori Wilk. All rights reserved Worldwide. Reprint rights: You may reprint this article if you do not alter it in any way, give author name recognition, keep all links active, and follow ezine articles guidelines for publishers.

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