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To enjoy great sex, it is important to use the right love making positions so that both you and your lover can enjoy. Great sex is possible regardless of size and if you know the best love making positions and techniques that work best for you.

Making love should be an enjoyable and wonderful thing, not a boring affair. It is very common when a couple has been together for quite some time; they tend to treat sex as just a boring routine to get by. They will then lose the passion and ideas to try out new positions and tricks, which will definitely add some spice to their boring sex life.

So now you may ask, is there one love making position that you can use to make your lover goes wild? I doubt so. I believe that there will be a chance whereby some other love making positions your lover and you will enjoy more than what you are always doing at the moment.

Any position can be the best position for you and your lover, as long as the following elements are present:

1. A good foreplay. Put in considerable time and effort into this to set the mood and passion up before you get down to the real thing.

2. Communication. Always ask her how well you are doing. Fine tune your techniques as time goes by.

3. Surprises and anticipation. Do something new once a while so as to bring an element of surprise to the bedroom. Lead your lover to sex as anticipation builds up passion.

4. New ideas. Always seek out for new and fun ideas. Do not be afraid to try out new things. The most important thing here is not to stop learning.

With passionate and intimate sex, every position that you try with your lover will be the best love making position.

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The flavor of love is a tangled twisted insane mixed up game, that lover's may do to one another to test there love for one another, Some of those things only you could imagine, because everyone is guilty of it in some way or another.

A game is a game but when you put some one to the test, and they fail well it shows all and lets the true color's shine. But you also have to take in consideration of the fact that you are guilty aswell just by testing.

But some some times you cant help your self, and you just have to know how much does this person love me. The flavor of love is a test worth testing on any lover.

If your in a relationship and your unsure about your lovers sincerity an want to know if there a no good double crossing cheater, "put'em to the test" the flavor of love test.

You seen the the flavor of love show, all those girls going through hell just to prove how much they really want to be with flava flav the rap star, Well would you do all that in real life to prove your love for someone. Those girls had a more tougher time then you realize because they only showed half of what really happened.

The Flavor of Love:
Not an ice cream flavor, not a candy, and definitely not candy corn. The flavor of love is truly one of a kind life test brought buy the person that loves you most, you never know when it's going to happened, so it's almost impossible to be prepared.

Love love love love love, with out flavor it's just the same old boring simple love, but when you ad flavor the taste gets so much better and more enjoyable. That you cant but help your self to it over and over again. If you want to ad flavor to your love spice it up a little bit ad flavor to it.

The flavor of love is game to remember and a test to never forget. If you want to know more about the flavor of love please visit the site and brace your self for a new way to impress your lover.

The Flavor of Love is game to remember and a test to never forget. If you want to know more about The Flavor of Love please visit the site and brace your self for a new way to impress your lover.

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Are you wondering how to communicate with that new man in your life? Or maybe you are just wondering about the next man in your life? New or old, it’s never too late to learn how to communicate in the language of love.

Maybe you’ve seen the tomboyish girl that somehow has men flocking around her. If you stopped turning green with envy for a moment, you’d notice why she was a man magnet. She just sort of fit herself into him, like a piece of a jigsaw puzzle that he didn’t even know was missing.

Instead of rolling your eyes at that dazed and happy-in-love look he has on his face, why not look into how she did it? Learn these tips on how to communicate in a whole new way by getting to know his love language and speaking it fluently!

We all know that love is built on the solid foundation of communication. When we are in love we are on the same page as our lover. It’s a special level of communication that people in love have.

Some call it chemistry, but really, in order to even get to the chemistry stage you need to know his love language. For a clue as to what that might be, we need to understand how he relates to the world around him.

Everyone perceives their world with three senses - sight, sound and feelings. Psychologists have discovered that even though we use all three senses, one of these senses is always more pronounced. It doesn’t mean that it replaces the others, but if you pay attention, the more dominant one will reveal itself to you.

Asking questions is the easiest and fastest way to learn his language and since asking questions is the most common way to get to know someone or start a conversation, he’ll never suspect.

He’s just returned from a business trip. You ask about his trip. Pay attention to his answer:

1. If he’s visual he might say: the weather was terrible. I didn’t get to see the sun once!

2. An auditory guy will talk about sounds: we got the account, which was good. But the hotel I stayed at was too noisy.

3. He is a feeler if he answers something like: I have to admit; I’m not much into traveling alone. I get lonely when I visit new places.

Knowing a man’s love language is the key in how to communicate with him in a way that will make him feel that you are the missing piece to his puzzle. You’ll just fit. Of course, one question isn’t going to tell you. You’ll have to watch for a pattern to emerge.

Once you do find the prominent sense, you’ll want to speak his language. Talking with your visual man will be all about what you saw on the way over, while the auditory fellow will want to know about the new CD you just bought.

It doesn’t matter what your love language is. As long as you know how to communicate to him in his Love Language you’ll soon be the envy of all the other girls. That is, unless you tell them your secret.

Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to Developing Communication Confidence. Apply now because it is available only at: how to communicate

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Proposing a New Diagnosis and Theory for Patients with Multiple Addictions By James Slobodzien, Psy.D., CSAC

Experts in the field of addictions are presently purporting that between 3 and 6 percent of the world’s population (193 to 386 million people) are presently affected by a sexual dependency or compulsivity (Carnes, 2005). Sexual dependency is a diagnosable and treatable disease, which today is generally, regarded in about the same way that alcoholism and drug addiction (chemical dependency) was regarded 40 years ago. Even so, there still exists a wide range of understandable misunderstandings about compulsive sexual acting out, created out of ignorance about the nature of sexual addiction, and supported and perpetuated by the multibillion dollar pornography industry.

Sexual Dependency - is a global term that covers a wide range of maladaptive and self-defeating behavior patterns and relationships such as:

1. Love Addiction – a disorder in which individuals repeatedly become involved in enmeshed, intense, codependent relationships, even when those relationships or partners are destructive;

2. Romance Addiction - a disorder in which individuals become obsessed with the intrigue and the pursuit of romance and thrive on the thrill of the chase, but find it impossible to sustain a committed, intimate relationship with another person;

3. Sexual Anorexia – a disorder in which individuals become dominated and obsessed with the emotional, physical, and mental task of avoiding sex; and

4. Sex Addiction – a disorder in which individuals become obsessed with sexually-related, compulsive self-defeating maladaptive behavior.

But can one really be addicted to love as the popular 80’s song proclaims? In a recent research study, (Aron, A. 2005) published in the June issue of the Journal of Neurophysiology, researchers used functional MRI to watch the real-time brain activity of 17 college students (10 women, seven men), all of whom were in the early weeks or months of new love. These researchers concluded that, love may vie for the same real estate in the brain as drug addiction. “Early love, rooted as it is in the caudate nucleus, is all about addiction.” "It is a drug addiction." "It's certainly got some of the main characteristics of drug addiction -- as with drugs, once you fall in love you need that person more and more, so much so that, after a while, you have to marry them. There are other things, too -- real dependence, personality changes, withdrawal symptoms." “And just like the need for cocaine or heroin, love can make people do crazy, sometimes dangerous things.” According to Aron (2005), the findings help explain instances where people fall in love with people they aren’t even sexually attracted to; or why others can feel equally strong, sudden emotion for a newborn child or even God.

So does this mean that all people who are newly in love have an addiction? Are all men who look at pornography addicted? Are all women who read romance novels addicted? Are all people who avoid sex considered sexual anorexics? No, no, no, and no. Then how can we differentiate between addiction and healthy relationships? Like other forms of addictive diseases and lifestyle disorders such as chemical dependency, pathological gambling, eating disorders, and religious addiction -

Sexual dependency is characterized by an addictive cycle of:

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Are you wondering how to communicate with that new man in your life? Or maybe you are just wondering about the next man in your life? New or old, it’s never too late to learn how to communicate in the language of love.

Maybe you’ve seen the tomboyish girl that somehow has men flocking around her. If you stopped turning green with envy for a moment, you’d notice why she was a man magnet. She just sort of fit herself into him, like a piece of a jigsaw puzzle that he didn’t even know was missing.

Instead of rolling your eyes at that dazed and happy-in-love look he has on his face, why not look into how she did it? Learn these tips on how to communicate in a whole new way by getting to know his love language and speaking it fluently!

We all know that love is built on the solid foundation of communication. When we are in love we are on the same page as our lover. It’s a special level of communication that people in love have.

Some call it chemistry, but really, in order to even get to the chemistry stage you need to know his love language. For a clue as to what that might be, we need to understand how he relates to the world around him.

Everyone perceives their world with three senses - sight, sound and feelings. Psychologists have discovered that even though we use all three senses, one of these senses is always more pronounced. It doesn’t mean that it replaces the others, but if you pay attention, the more dominant one will reveal itself to you.

Asking questions is the easiest and fastest way to learn his language and since asking questions is the most common way to get to know someone or start a conversation, he’ll never suspect.

He’s just returned from a business trip. You ask about his trip. Pay attention to his answer:

1. If he’s visual he might say: the weather was terrible. I didn’t get to see the sun once!

2. An auditory guy will talk about sounds: we got the account, which was good. But the hotel I stayed at was too noisy.

3. He is a feeler if he answers something like: I have to admit; I’m not much into traveling alone. I get lonely when I visit new places.

Knowing a man’s love language is the key in how to communicate with him in a way that will make him feel that you are the missing piece to his puzzle. You’ll just fit. Of course, one question isn’t going to tell you. You’ll have to watch for a pattern to emerge.

Once you do find the prominent sense, you’ll want to speak his language. Talking with your visual man will be all about what you saw on the way over, while the auditory fellow will want to know about the new CD you just bought.

It doesn’t matter what your love language is. As long as you know how to communicate to him in his Love Language you’ll soon be the envy of all the other girls. That is, unless you tell them your secret.

Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to Developing Communication Confidence. Apply now because it is available only at: how to communicate

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Fountain pens aren't ordinary writing instruments: they are works of art. Just like timepieces, fountain pens are meticulously crafted by skilled artists and engineers to come up with well designed yet fully functional fountain pens. That is why collectors keep it and pass it on to the next generation as a sort of heirloom.

Fountain pens resemble the imprint of old quill and ink. The difference, however, lies at the ink flow: today’s fountain pens are consistent while quill and ink has a thick print when newly dipped and pale when ink is running dry. Yet for writers and history buffs, fountain pens are the nearest (and practical) replica of the old writing instrument.

Writing is always smooth when using a fountain pen. A reservoir for the ink is controlled by a nib at the tip of the pen. Flow is controlled by capillary action with the help of gravity. Unlike the ballpoint pen, a fountain pen has no breaks when scribbled unless its ink is almost depleted. Also, a fountain pen’s ink complements most writing papers because it is water-based, in contrast to other pens that use chemical-based inks. A fountain pen only includes dye and surfactant as part of ingredients.

All expensive fountain pens are refillable. There are, of course, the disposable types which are of lesser quality and value. However, a disposable fountain pen will not make your writing look good as a real fountain pen can. A real fountain pen will do justice to your penmanship.

However, only a few people really do use this fine pen for writing. They believe that its value may diminish. However, those in the academe believe otherwise. The more you use your fountain pen, the more it becomes an important object because it becomes a part of you; it form part of your personal academic studies and professorial duties.

In fact, as a form of tradition professors from Ivy League schools use fountain pens to bestow honor to people, especially to a colleague. For instance, in the movie, "A Beautiful Mind," it has been shown that professors from the university honored John Nash by offering their expensive fountain pens as gifts upon his table.

Each fountain pen is unique; not merely in design but in the quality of ink and ink flow. Handwriting experts call it the pen’s ‘fingerprint.’ This unique quality of a fountain pen symbolizes the individuality of the person who is using it and the original and work of art that a writer can wield with such a fine object. Indeed, all over the world, writers recognize the beauty behind a fountain pen: the symbolism behind the object and fine writing which the object brings.

Lovers and connoisseurs of fountain pens created websites to congregate and talk on everything about pens, most especially about fountain pens. Pen balance, ink flow and ergonomics are just some of the terms you can expect to find in the forums. These people just love fountain pens so much that they are even studying and anatomically classifying each fountain pen.

Want to learn more about fountain pens? Or find out if money clips or pocket business card holders best suit your needs? Then visit ExecutiveGiftShop.com today!

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What´s love for you? Some people might confuse their feelings or others think they haven´t been in love yet. Well the fact is that love is a strong feeling that involves suffering and happiness; it´s a warm affection between two people.

You feel love when you spend time thinking about it, dreaming with the idea or image, losing sleep worrying over it , being nervous or feeling attraction for that person . When we don´t have it we search for it and when it appears in our lives we don´t know what to do about it, because we fear to destroy the things or even worse to lose that person who means a lot to you so that is why I can say that love is a source of pain and pleasure.

There are different types of love. The one for your parents and family. Love for God, for your friends , for different hobbies, for example the strong passion that people feel in the games is incredible, but the best love is the love for a person who makes you shake and laugh as much as you can can, it´s to feel appreciated by another, in other words, to feel loved.

To find people that are your best friends and are very close to you is possible, meeting a woman or a man that are very beautiful and intelligent is not that hard; finding a person that you love to spend time with and makes you laugh is feasible; but finding someone who has all those qualities, happens once in a lifetime, and when you find that person, he´ll change your life upside down and you´ll love him forever.

Love is one of the first feelings humans ever experienced, since the creation of planet Earth, when Adam and Eve trusted each other in everything doing everything together and they even had more faith in each than in God himself, this is one of the best examples on how big the love between two persons is. One of the most beautiful poems or lines ever said is in the Bible (Corinthians 13: 4-6), and is used in the most sacred communion in a relationship, the wedding, and it says: “Love is patient, Love is kind, it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. Love always protects, always trusts,always hopes, always perseveres.” This was the way the writer talked and described love itself in those times; this shows how big love has been all the time.

To be in love is the greatest joy someone could experience, as our lives change many things could happen, many feelings could diminish but at the end, what counts is to do what makes you happy. I think that it is impossible to live without love; some people think that money, great cars, great house and a great job makes them happy, but at the end they only come to one conclusion, that all those things do not fill up their hearts and without love they don´t have anything; because love can surpass every obstacle including economic differences, racial aspects and even physical appearance. Love is what moves the World and makes it a better place.


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Broken heart, hurt and loneliness are three perfect ingredients, which, when mixed together, make our lives dull and miserable. These three things can easily take over our lives and once part of our lives we can see nothing but unhappiness. Very little do we know that we can become happy again and learn to appreciate the feeling of love again through love affirmations. A love affirmation is a simple statement that we continually say to ourselves, which, over time, can help to bring about permanent changes in our lives.

Love affirmations help us to rediscover the love we have lost. An affirmation is a thought that we have during the day which is directly linked to our sub-consciousness. These love affirmations guide our sub-consciousness into a certain direction which can either have positive or negative effective.

To bring about a change in our lives through love affirmation we first need to start thinking positively and wave a good-bye to all our negative thoughts which leads to a unhappy life in the first place. For example instead of ‘nobody loves me’ start thinking ‘everybody loves me’. The key behind reuniting with love is to start loving yourself in the first place and feel confident about you. Adopting a positive love affirmation about yourself such as ‘I was born out of love’ can be very helpful in helping you regain your self esteem after a breakup or a rough fight.

Secondly change your attitude towards others. Respect their feelings and think that everyone deserves love just like you do. Once you adopt this love affirmation, love will find you. You will no longer see life as miserable but will find it to be filled with love.

Wording used in love affirmation is of great significance. Only use words that are simple and can be easily accepted by your mind, only then will power of love affirmations work. Preferably try to use word ‘love’ when making use of a love affirmation. Something along the lines of ‘I am worth loving’ or ‘I will find my true love’ or ‘I am committed to loving ...’ are all good examples of love affirmations.

Love affirmation can not only be used to find love for yourself but it is also about discovering God’s love. For example thinking ‘I will love others as extensions of my own Self, and of the love I feel from God.’ will draw you nearer to God and His universal love.

Love affirmation also helps you understand your companion and builds a strong bond between couples. Even to find romance you first need to find your inner-love which can only be achieved through love affirmation.

Love affirmation can also be used to draw ourselves closer towards nature. Learn to love nature and most importantly spend time with nature more often. Try thinking about good things such as ‘I love the smell of fresh flower’ or ‘I feel refreshed’.

To get used to love affirmation, note down any positive thought you have during the day maybe on a piece of card or whichever way is convenient to you. During initial stages of love affirmation technique we might get negative thoughts as well. Note these negative affirmations as well and at the end of each day try replacing them with something more fruitful thought. Review your affirmations twice a day to have a maximum effect of love affirmation. Initially it takes time to step out of a dark miserable world but once you succeed in taking a step nothing can stop you and with the help from repeated love affirmations you will ultimately stop at nothing but love.

Robert Watson is a certified hypnotherapist with the ABH and the NGH, and has worked with affirmations and subliminal messages for over ten years. Visit his website for more information about using affirmations and subliminal messages to help you lose weight, quit smoking, have a more positive outlook and more.

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In life we must TRUST. This is a small word yet it has a huge and powerful meaning attached to it. Trust that the one who created us will not destroy or desert us. As we move into a powerful time in the Universe, June is a time of preparation. This means to allow yourself to become really clear with whom you are and what it is you wish to bring into your life.

Many of us are preparing for our big break… the opportunity of a life time… and it takes risks… great risks; maybe it is in finally starting your own business, or going back to school to study your passion and you are not sure if the money will be there or not.

My belief system and the words I have used over and over again in the last couple of months are “God will not drop me.” Mom and I had to be out of our mold infested home by the end of May. Time was running out and we still had not found a home to move into. As Mom was diligently packing our home and office to move we were still performing our daily tasks and moving forward. During this time we both traveled to a conference in Las Vegas continually being in the moment and maintaining our focus even though we still had no where to live. The date was May 18th leaving us less than two weeks to find a home or put everything in storage. I arrived back home on May 21st and within the hour, Mom and I went to look at two homes. It was five days before we had to be out of our present home and while it was sometimes difficult and challenging, we continually supported each other with the words: “TRUST.” Trust that God has a plan. The second home that we looked at that day was our home… it was waiting for us. This home has everything we were looking for and we could move in immediately. We saw the house on Monday afternoon and moved in on Saturday.

I knew in my heart there was a plan. I did not have all the details but I was focused on the end result. My God, the Creator of the Universe was not going to drop me.

Where in your life have you been stuck for fear things might not go your way. I believe that in life it is important to ask for help especially from our loved one, Angels and Spirit Guides. I pray often for strength and courage, I believe that it is important for you to do this as well. You need the courage to receive what it is you are asking for and the strength to walk forward knowing that it will happen.

Many times I felt like I am walking on a tight rope. At that moment, I was only allowed to focus on the step that I was taking. The bigger picture was not visible to me until the end. It was my job and responsibility to simply focus on the moment because if I were to look too far ahead I may fall off the edge driven by fear, anger, resentment or worry. Feeling naked and vulnerable is certainly not always comfortable. I am sure you have been there at least once in your life. What does this mean? It means that in life in order to bring in what it is you are asking for and trusting that you, too, will not be dropped or deserted; it is your job to be focused on the moment and stay in tune with your emotions and how you are feeling. It is your job to be in alignment with the end result and to keep asking the Universe to take your hand and walk with you.

In life, we are part of a team and we need to remember to call on our team all the time. You do not have to do it alone. Give yourself permission to receive and accept the fact that wonderful things do belong to you.

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Falling in Love with the Unknown
By Joan Marie Whelan

About the Author:
Joan Marie Whelan is an International Medium, Intuitive Specialist Medical Intuitive, and Past/Present Life Expert. Allow her to help you manifest your intuitive powers to achieve success and health and happiness.

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If you've read any of my articles in the past, you know that I'm not a doctor, I'm a wife, and a communicator by profession. My husband survived Prostate Cancer a little more than six years ago. We have experienced the before,during, and after procedure stress in our lives and our relationship. I write for inspiration, love, and hope for all who care to read what I offer.

Before procedures, everyone is worried about the outcome of the procedures. After the procedures, everyone has questions about the relationship, sex, and love. It can get confusing sometimes. Add to this confusion and frustrations about our bodies and aging with the fact that middle-aged women also are or will be dealing with menopausal and hormonal issues of their own and wow.....it's nuts.

A middle-aged wife might be getting more emotional than ever before. Her hormones and patience-level may leave lots to desire. If the man's physical state and emotional state are not the same as months or years previous, there's more joint stress.

My husband has spent lots of hours worrying after the surgery about my looks and my mental state. He worried, way too much about my being desirable and whether or not I would continue to want him. He worried about other men wanting me and whether I would cheat on him if he had problems? He worried about aging and about needing dentures.

Let's face it, medical procedures don't make you feel sexy unless you're augmenting something. Even then, you definitely don't feel sexy until after you've healed. Medical procedures are stressful because we are human.

You will have questions and you will probably worry and be scared about different things, but if you can tell your partner and discuss openly how to help each other, you will have a stronger connection. I wish you good luck and I send my love.

Lori Wilk, MBA, is a Las Vegas , motivational speaker, author, and host of the internet talk show "Successipes" at http://www.success-talk.com. If you enjoyed this article, syndicate me, add me to your web site, send me an e-mail, or go to http://www.loriwilkarticles.com .c.2007 Lori Wilk. All rights reserved Worldwide. Reprint rights: You may reprint this article if you do not alter it in any way, give author name recognition, keep all links active, and follow ezine articles guidelines for publishers.

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As a somewhat older gentleman (but still fairly good looking and somewhat romantic?) I have always enjoyed good relationships with the younger folk – Oh! The times I have been called upon over recent years to inspect and give an opinion on some poor new prospective boyfriend.

Of course, it is somewhat flattering to be consulted for such advice by pretty young females. However, my opinions and comment are based more upon my experienced knowledge of the devious thinking of younger males (I once was one) rather than any psychic ability.

I have always held a very open mind to most matters and my sideline interest in psychic and astrology subjects has been generated more as result of relationships with members of the fairer sex who dally in such areas.

More recently, with time on my hands due to health reasons I tended to read more on the subject and, in particular, that of the compatibility of people under their different zodiac signs. So, out of simple curiosity I conducted a simple experiment.

I prepared two lists on which I set down the names of numerous males and females that I had known over the years - friends, lover's, business etc.

I then noted alongside each name my relationship with that person as Excellent-Excellent Romantic-Good or Average. After this, I noted down where possible, each person’s birth date and Zodiac sign. I made many phone calls and researched many old dairies to complete this particular information.

An analysis of the lists threw up that, throughout my life, my most excellent relationships had been with Arian's, Leo's, Aquarian's, Geminis, Taurean's and Sagittarian's. Of these, my most Romantic 'Excellent relationships' had centred upon Leo's, Gemini's & Arian's plus, one very special sensual Scorpio.

Zodiac research indicated that the female Sagittarian offered the best compatibility choice for my sign of Aries; there were no Sagittarian female romances on my list of females.

There was however, one female at the beginning of my list. She dated way back to my lecherous youth and due to the haze of time I could not recall or remember her birthday.

As I sat one evening and reminisced back some 40 years to that time, I had to conclude, with a somewhat lecherous smile on my face, that this lady had to be the best and most exciting romantic relationship in my life to date. This was a young male older women relationship and a bit of a social no-no at that time. Might turn it into an Ebook one day entitled – 'Lady Sagittarian's Lover' or something similar.

My curiosity gained the better of me and I set to work to trace her and in time managed to locate her surviving son. From him I gained her birthday to discover she had indeed been a Sagittarian.

Can the stars be right? I don’t really know. I can say however that in my case, without doubt, that lovely Sagittarian lady of so long ago was indeed the most exciting romantic activity of my life to date.

Who knows, there may yet still be another fantastic Sagittarian girl out there for this optimistic older Arian? Although one of a little lesser vitality than that exciting Sagittarian princess of so long ago.

Ted Burgess turned to the computer at age 63 as a possible mental rehabilitation tool after heart attacks and strokes. His interests cover many subjects as reflected in his web site. One mental rehabilitation exercise was constructing the free Ebook– Zodiac Lovers Guide at http://www.assetsoflife.com

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He's your good friend. She's your best confidant. You have known each other for a few years and have shared meals, movies, hobbies and vacations. You have confided to each other about your latest love interest and turned to one another for support when the relationship(s) failed. You can't imagine life without your good friend.

But for a while....

You've felt jealous of his dates. You've been overprotective of her since she has been seeing the jerk. You've been having very strong feelings of attraction and a desire for something more than friendship. Could it be that your feelings for him/her have grown into something more? If so, your relationship may have developed into a "friend crush".

You don't know what to do. You know you want to continue spending time together- more time. But it's getting hard. You fantasize about having more with this person and are beginning to feel like a jealous would-be partner. Do you pretend everything is the same? Do you start distancing yourself- hoping your feelings will go back to the way they were? Do you actually TALK directly and honestly with your friend about how you feel?

What will happen to the relationship if you make the WRONG choice?

Just as all people are unique, so are the characteristics of their relationships with others. There is no one-size-fits-all answer to this increasingly common dilemma. So, let's take a look at your options. You can:

* ignore your feelings, keep your boundaries in check and pretend everything is status quo

In order to choose this option, you must be able to deny your feelings so well that even you don't know what they are. You will also have to continue being comfortable on the sidelines while someone else has the relationship with this person that you desire. You will most likely be asked what you think of this or that person and be expected to be happy and supportive of your friend when they meet the right someone for them. In return for all this, you will still have your friend.

* begin to spend less time with your friend (crush) while seeking out new friendships to pursue and strengthen

This option will most likely cause confusion and hurt on the part of your friend who will wonder what happened. They may be understanding and accepting of your need to spread your wings and support you in doing what you need to do. Either way, you will see less of them and your relationship can weaken and perhaps disappear altogether as they move on with new people. If you can distance yourself for a while and no longer feel the romantic butterflies, you can always give them a call and may be able to pick up somewhere near where you left off.

* continue the relationship with your own hidden agendas - a desire for romantic intimacy and the hope that the person will realize that they feel the same way

If they become involved with someone else in the meantime, you can work to sabotage their new relationship or you can leave them wondering where all your anger and hurt feelings are coming from. You can spend a lot of time and energy handling it this way, without anything to show for your efforts but the loss of a good friend.

* have an open and honest discussion with your friend regarding your new feelings for them

This is the choice that seems to be the hardest for folks to make. Often what I hear from people in this position is that they fear "ruining the friendship" if they discuss their feelings honestly. While this is a very understandable concern, it isn't well thought out. It is emotional, not rational. Look again at the other options. Every one will bring about a change in your current friendship.

Why?

Once your feelings have changed, so does the relationship. Ignoring them, hiding them or distancing yourself will lessen your closeness and the positive dynamics that flow between good friends. You can't go back. You need to decide how you want to move forward or if this is an option for you. . It is also possible in choosing this option that you will learn that they have similar feelings for you that they were afraid to reveal. Therefore choosing this option could result in romance and a love relationship based on true friendship.

Intimacy exists in all close relationships. It is the ability to be completely open and vulnerable to another without fear of harm or rejection. So, by definition, we cannot be intimate with another while hiding or denying our true feelings and needs to them.

The choice will always be yours. Choosing wisely is about really knowing the options, the consequences they bring and what will be best for you and your friend.

Toni Coleman, MSW is a licensed psychotherapist, relationship coach and founder of http://www.consum-mate.com. As a recognized expert, Toni has been quoted in many local and national publications including: The Chicago Tribune, The Orlando Sentinel, New York Daily News, Indiana

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Why are people so fascinated by gymnasts? Why do people love to watch gymnastics on TV? What is it about Olympic Gymnasts that we idol and why do we forever want them on our Wheaties Cereal Boxes? Are we awe stuck by their agility and power to weight ratios, as they do things that we can only dream of doing.

Are we stuck in admiration for their superior physique? Are we simply blown away in knowing that it takes years of training and dedication to perform at those levels? What is it about Gymnastic Champions; Why do we love them all so much?

Perhaps we love gymnasts and value their skills for all these reasons? Although some might actually be jealous of all their talents and agility; after all Americans are getting fatter than ever before and most of them cannot make it onto a horse or over a small fence.

While these gymnasts fly thru the air like Superman at a single pound. Of course for all those who envy or are jealous of them, there are ten times that many who admire gymnasts, their perseverance and commitment to train years on end to be able to perform at those incredible limits of the human agility. Consider all this in 2006.

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1) Audiobooks are available in many formats and thus can be heard in many ways, on many devices. After downloading, audiobooks are playable on computers, then can be burned to a disc, and can be loaded to an iPod or mp3 player.

2) The amount of books I read per week is greatly increased because the amount of time I have to sit down and read written books is very limited. Before audiobooks, I was able to squeeze in about 2 books a month. I still do read about 1 per month, but now, I add another 2-5 audiobooks that I listen to in my car or on my iPod.

3) Listening to audiobooks makes my downtime much more productive. An example is on the commute to work. Instead of listening to mindless radio, I prefer to listen to an audiobook. I work closely with my customers and I enjoy audiobooks on business and relationships. Since I started listening to the audiobooks on my commute, my productivity and bottom line have really taken off.

4) I used to do business with an avid reader who recently had a stroke. He is very happy that a friend turned him on to audiobooks. He can now still keep his mind active and can learn from books with out having to pick them up and turning the pages. His vision is also blurry so he has a hard time with words. Audiobooks are also great for the visually impaired. Rather then straining over reading small type, one only has to hit play and then can sit back and listen.

5) I no longer have to chase people down to get books back after I loan them out. We have all had this happen, you loan a friend a book and never see it again. Now it is no real loss if you don’t get back a cd that you made from your computer. Or it only takes a moment to load an audiobook to a friend’s iPod or mp3 player.

Traditionally, audiobooks could be purchased through catalogs or rented from the library as books on tapes. With advances in technology, they became books on CD. Now, the best place to find audiobooks is in the internet. There are many categories to choose from ranging from biographies, best sellers, juvenile, old time radio, thrillers, comedies, learn a foreign language, and religious titles.

The audiobooks can come in both abridged and full length form. They do not take long to download either, anywhere from seconds to just a few minutes for the longest titles. Almost all of the titles also come with a free sample download so that you can hear the narrator before purchasing.

For all of the preceding reasons, I am confident that you will love audiobooks to if you have not already discovered them. The amount of time you free up listening to audiobooks while you commute, walk the dog, or work around the house is priceless. I encourage you to check out how easy and affordable it is to download your audiobooks today.

Jeff Wendland is an avid audiobook listener and owner of the website http://www.bestscifiaudiobooks.com

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It was 2:00 am, but the light from the moon cast a glow that illuminated the darkness and allowed me to see into the night. I looked up into the sky and a voice within my being proclaimed, "I love you like the moon." I immediately smiled because I recognized the voice of the Spirit that often spoke directing me to listen and understand God's truth.

It was a voice of kindness that knew me completely. A Spirit that comforted me when my journey in this world was hard. A loving Savior that helped me carry the difficult burdens of life with lightness and a freedom that could only have been sent by a supernatural power.

1 John 2: 27, "But as for you, Christ has poured out his Spirit on you. As long as his Spirit remains in you, you do not need anyone to teach you. For his Spirit teaches you about everything, and what he teaches is true, not false. Obey the Spirit's teaching, then, and remain in union with Christ."

Listening to the voice of the Spirit of God is one of the most difficult things to discern. You must be trained by God's Spirit in order to know the difference between His Spirit and the voice of Satan's evil spirit demons, who want to destroy a person's life.

When Adam and Eve ate the apple our world changed into a battleground. A war between good and evil where the Spirit world interacted with the human world. Our minds became the greatest battle field of them all because that is where the Spirit interacts with our consciousness.

1 John 3: 19-21, "This, then, is how we will know that we belong to the truth; this is how we will be confident in God's presence. If our conscience condemns us, we know that God is greater than our conscience and that he knows everything. And so, my dear friends, if our conscience does not condemn us, we have courage in God's presence.”

The first lesson you must learn as you endeavor to understand the voices you hear within your consciousness is the difference between God and Satan. Remember the Spirit of God is the voice of truth and love. Satan is the voice of condemnation and hate.

I have been an upholster for over thirty years and God taught me to listen when I needed help on a difficult pattern match or if I needed insight when I was changing the style of a piece of furniture. God's voice was a flash of an idea that led me to do my job easier. It was a whisper that directed me to cut fabric in a certain way. The Spirit of truth never forced an idea on me, it came gently. When I obeyed the voice it made my work easier. The loving voice of my Savior made me an excellent upholster, who loved my job.

God, helping me in my job and directing me so I wouldn't make mistakes, shows how much He cares about people. He wanted me to do well and He gave me the gift of knowledge that helped me to do upholstery work. This taught me that He cared that I had the money I needed in order to live.

The Spirit directed me on how to behave in my relationships. I was never to give into anger, jealousy or rage. I was to be peaceful, caring and loving to those around me. This is not an easy thing to do because everyone is easily persuaded by their emotions to hold onto offenses that others do to them.

1 John 19-21, "We love because God first loved us. If someone says he loves God, but hates his brother, he is a liar. For he cannot love God, whom he has not seen, if he does not love his brother, whom he has seen. The command that Christ has given us is this: whoever loves God must love his brother also."

Reading my Bible and allowing it to control my human nature with the right way to treat people helped me to know God's will for my life. We must love others in order to do what is right. We are not to give into our own selfish desires which lead us down paths that are not God, but Satan.

Satan's voice leads us down paths that abuse our bodies through excessive drinking or smoking that is geared to rob us of our life. He frustrates our ability to make a living by having us fight with our co-workers. He makes us blind to what we are doing wrong in work so we will fail.

Satan wants to make us take revenge on those who do us wrong. This is the reason so many countries are at war today. This is why there are gangs who fight against other gangs. Violence and murder are an everyday occurrence with those who give into their human nature and listen to Satan's evil voice.

1 John 3: 7-10, "Let no one deceive you, my children! Whoever does what is right is righteous just as Christ is righteous. Whoever continues to sin belongs to the Devil, because the Devil has sinned from the very beginning. The Son of God appeared for this very reason, to destroy what the Devil had done.

Whoever is a child of God does not continue to sin, for God's very nature is in him; and because God is his Father, he cannot continue to sin. Here is a clear difference between God's children and the Devil's children: anyone who does not do what is right or does not love his brother is not God's child."

Now we can see clearly through scriptures the spiritual battle that surrounds each person's life. To acknowledge the unseen spiritual battle is to gain wisdom on why bad things happen to people. Interpreting the voices help us when we go through difficult things in the world like sickness, natural disasters, loss of a loved one and tragedies that normally come to people.

I have a Christian friend who went through a severe sickness that put her in the hospital where she almost died. Her whole life was in crisis because when she was sick she could not earn the money she needed in order to pay her bills. In her hopelessness she began hearing a voice that repeated over and over again that she was going to die. When she confided in me over what was happening, I told her the voice was not God, but Satan. God is the giver of life in a corrupt and evil world. Satan wants to destroy life.

Learning to hear the voice of God directs us so we can live! God cares about every part of our life. He wants us to succeed in our work. He wants us to love each other. He wants us to know the difference between good and bad. He desires that we have a close relationship with Him so we will not be led into sin by Satan's evil voice of lies.

When God stated He loved me like the moon. I knew it was Him, because God loves people. The moon's light is like the rays of knowledge that opens up a person's mind to truth. Just like the moon lights up the world at night, God's followers are to be a shining light of love for the world.

Linda C Dipman author of THE GAME OF LIFE IT'S ALMOST OVER http://outskirtspress.com/gameoflife presents AND HIS LOVE SHONE DOWN my true life story! It describes all the persecutions I endured. It will put you on the edge of your seat as you read each vivid detail. You will feel terror and experience love like nothing you have ever read before. http://lovinghandsministry.com

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Developing and living by a household budget is by far the best way to get your expenses under control which, in turn, can mean a much less stressful life.

However, many families find it very difficult to stick to a budget. It does take hard work and a lot of self-discipline, at least in the beginning. The good news is that most families find the longer they can stick to a budget, the easier it becomes. This is because sticking to a budget eventually becomes an unconscious habit, just like driving a car. And once it becomes a habit, the budgeting process just sort of goes on cruise control and requires much less thought or effort.

But what do you do during those first three, four or six months, when sticking to a budget feels so difficult?

There are several answers to this. The first is to make sure your budget categories are realistic. You may think you can get by with $100 a week for groceries, but is this real? Do you have checks or receipts that verify how much you have been spending at the grocery store? You really need to know. Otherwise, you may budget too little. In turn, this becomes frustrating because you will always be over budget.

Second, make sure you have all categories covered. There are some categories that are easy -- rent, mortgage payment, utilities, car payments, etc. But think hard about all other categories such as clothing, eating out, prescriptions, pet care, tuition, books, allowances, movies, CDs and DVDs, and computer software and games, to name a few. If you don’t budget for all these kind of expenses, I promise they will bust your budget.

Finally, if you find you just can’t seem to stick to your budget, here’s a sort of tough love answer.

Go to your nearest office supply store and buy a box of #10 envelopes. Take them out and label one for each of your budget categories. Then write on each envelope the amount you have budgeted for that category.

For the purpose of this exercise, it is not necessary to break down general categories into subcategories. For example, you can label one envelope “entertainment” and not worry about envelopes for “movies,” “eating out,” “DVDs,” etc. Just be sure the number you write on the envelope for any general category represents the sum of all its subcategories.

When you next get paid, cash your paycheck and bring it all home in $50, $20 and $10 bills. Then put and amount of cash in each of the envelopes equal to the amount you budgeted for that particular 6category.

Now, as you need to pay bills or buy groceries, etc., use the cash in the corresponding envelopes to pay them. You will know when you have reached the budgeted amount for any category because its envelope will be empty. What do you do when you find an envelope is empty? You do nothing. That category is all finished for this pay period. If the envelope is empty and you still have expenses, either you haven’t budgeted correctly or you have overspent. You might be able to fudge and take funds from another category envelope. For example, if you have a week to go and are $40 short for groceries, you might be able to take the $40 out of the entertainment envelope. Just keep in mind this means $40 less for entertainment.

Do this for a few months and I promise you will not only learn to budget accurately, you will learn to stick to your budget.

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Douglas Hanna has lived in the Denver area for nearly 35 years and is an expert on both Denver and Colorado. He is also the author of more than 120 articles on Denver and Internet marketing.

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What can you do if you find yourself in a relationship shrouded in unrealistic expectations, confusing communication, power struggles, and poisonous emotions? How do you rekindle dedication enthusiasm and dedication for a relationship whose light has dimmed because of the these negative patterns?

First, you need to believe that it can be done. No one can predict the future of a particular relationship, but many couples are able to repair and strengthen the most lifeless and frustrating marriages. Sometimes the effort that this journey takes adds to the equation bringing your relationship even closer than it was in the beginning.

Secondly be prepared and willing to really work at it, because it will take consistent effort for the feelings of love and affection return. This can seem like a massive effort and is normally where most couples become overwhelmed. It will be an uphill struggle to work against your present feelings before eventually seeing long term positive results

Remember All The Things You Used to Have and Do Together.
Can you recollect your courting time and all the loving things you did for one another?
Can you remember what did on your first date?
What were things like when you first met? Were they
What attracted you to each other in the first place?
What kinds of things did you do for fun?

And ask your self, “Do you still do any of these things?”

Most couples find this kind of reminiscing enjoyable and enlightening. It reminds you that at one time you had some pretty great feelings for one another. This step can be an attempt to regain an appetite or desire for the relationship.

To receive love one must first give love.

You can make a decision to turn things around, even if your partner is unwilling to do so. Of course if you both agree to do this it would be far better. This is a decision of your will. To change your mind and direct your thoughts in a different way, and when you decide that you will take responsibility to make this decision and stick with it, amazing things will start to happen. When you decide to send out love from your heart without judgment and without expecting reciprocation from your partner, it’s as if the universe conspires to help you. The results can be magical and very powerful.

Do those things that helped love grow in the beginning.

Sonny Walia is one of Europe’s premier experts in solving relationship problems and building strong bonds that are unbreakable. He is helping people worldwide, pin-point the fatal mistakes to avoid whilst creating lasting Love and Passion in their relationships. Sonny teaches people how to find their “True love” from a place of Honesty, Integrity, Trust and Compassion. Go here http://www.findandkeepthe1.com to get his FREE newsletter

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If you had enough money right now to pay off your mortgage, would you? Most Americans would, since that has always been the American Dream. The reality is that following the "old" dream can be detrimental to your financial health. In fact, millions now love their mortgage because it is working for them.

Let's start with the reasons why the goal may be to pay off the mortgage. Many financial advisors/planners and other "experts" advise paying off the mortgage to reduce risk. ThePersonalFinance.com even runs articles advocating this "risk" management, and will lead you to believe that paying off your mortgage and doing so as fast as possible would be the best thing for you.

Advice is what you need, especially since no two families are the same and, thus, there is no single solution that meets everyone's needs. While paying off your mortgage may be good for you, there may be a better way. It may even be riskier for you to pay off your mortgage than to keep it.

So what risks are there in not paying off your mortgage? The "experts" say that the risks involve job loss, income reduction, interest hikes, market crashes, and banks pulling back their lines. They argue that all of these can and have happened before. If you feel these are valid risks, stop reading and pay off your mortgage. If you wonder how valid they really are, please continue reading.

Advice was suggested earlier and now will be emphasized. You not only need the advice though. You also need a plan and be disciplined to implement it. The risks will be compared against and the findings are astonishing. The disciplined homeowner will almost always have less risk by maintaining their mortgage!

Here's why. When you base everything on equal payments per month, getting an interest-only loan almost always results in better rates of return. After a few short years the disciplined homeowner will have enough money to survive any downturns in the economy, job loss, or other crisis, including natural disasters. This can be accomplished easily in safe investments that do not "crash" and most programs can minimize interest rate risks as well. But keep in mind that historically when interest rates went up, rates of returns on investments went up also, so the risks were already small.

As you can already see, risks can be averted fairly quickly by using a mortgage planning strategy. Since all things are not equal, you have to have your unique situation analyzed carefully and learn your options. This will provide the least risk of all, due to having enough cash to survive a crisis or disaster, maximizing tax deductions, and increasing your rates of return. Don't fall prey to the "one size fits all" companies out there or those that cater to the masses like you see advertised heavily on TV and the web.

The bottom line is that millions of Americans have fallen in love with their mortgage and the fact that their money is working hard for them. The monthly payments are not a burden to them, and the freedom created by being more liquid (having enough cash available quickly) is relieving stress in their lives. It's even making them want to put more of their home equity to work for them, instead of being trapped in their homes.

About the author: Robert D. Ashby is President of Solid Rock Mortgage, a licensed Mortgage Brokerage Business in the state of Florida. He has been in the financial services business since 1997 and obtained his Series 6 and 63 Securities Licenses as well as Life and Health Insurance Licenses in the state of Virginia. He moved to Florida in 2002 and decided to focus solely on mortgages, obtaining his Mortgage Broker License for Florida in 2003 and then opening Solid Rock Mortgage in 2004. He has become Florida’s first Certified Mortgage Planning Specialist and Florida’s Debt and Equity Management Expert.

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The UK's love affair with loans, credit cards and mortgages is a common topic in the news these days as Brits fall ever deeper into debt. At the end of April 2007 the total UK personal debt stood at £1325 billion - an increase of £114 billion from the previous year; a figure that is double the debt of our Western European counterparts.

With bank and credit card companies going out of their way to throw money at us, it seems that almost nothing is out of the average persons grasp. Do you want that brand new stereo, car or luxury holiday but don't have the cash to pay for it? Well, fear not: with a quick visit to the bank or a phone call to a credit card company, you can have it all. But be warned; what we buy today on borrowed money could cost us a lifetime of debt.

So, what is it about the Brits that makes us so keen to borrow money with little regard for the long term consequences - and how this could this impact on our future lives?

Many consumer groups blame credit card companies and banks who lend money to people who have little financial knowledge and are on low incomes, knowing that they will have trouble repaying the loan, thus locking them into a lifetime of debt. Others claim that the financial institutions aren't to blame, instead pointing the finger at our consumer orientated lifestyle where we're constantly bombarded by adverts for hundreds of items that we don't actually need, and keeping up with the Jones' is the sole aim of the game.

Whilst it's true that our consumer lifestyle creates the desire and the lending companies provide the means which together encourage people to spend more than they earn, it must be pointed out that everyone is accountable for their own actions. After all, nobody is forcing us to buy that new plasma TV, that designer dress or the new car - and if we can't afford it right now, we should save up until we can.

Of course, not all borrowing is irresponsible. If we never borrowed any money for anything, the vast majority of people would never be able to own a property, as there are very few people who have the cash to pay for a home in one go. There are many other situations where borrowing money using personal or secured loans will not end in financial disaster. For example a business investment, a car that is necessary if you're going to get to work on time, or perhaps just a holiday of a lifetime for which you have carefully calculated your repayments.

Young Brits especially must be careful not to fall into debt traps that are being laid and baited by lenders and consumer product companies. Too many people are sucked into loans and credit by a desire to have something that is out of their budget, yet can seemingly still be obtained by borrowing - without contemplating the long term implications of being in debt.


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Candies, flowers and gifts are exchanged between loved ones on every Valentines day. Why do we celebrate this Valentine's day, it is still a mystery. But it is always in our mind that February is a month of Romance. How to celebrate this lovely day and with whom, is always a question of every young boy or a girl. When we did not had mobiles, we used to send love messages to our loved ones via Love Cards, Greeting cards, Emails etc. But now things change, we prefer to show our emotions by sending sms messages. In every country, on valentines day, there is exchange of millions of love sms messages on this romance day. I have collected some beautiful cute love and romantic sms messages here. You may just copy and send these cool Valentine's sms messages to your beloved ones on this romance day.

Without Love -- dayz are Sad day moan day tears day waste day thirst day fright day shatter day... so be in Love everyday...Wish u a Happy Valentine's Day

Days may end, night may fall, but i will be there for you till we won't see each other at all. sun may rise, moon may fall, but i think my life would never be this nice if i never knew you at all.

All i ever wanted was some1 to care for me. all i ever wanted was someone who would be there for me.all i ever wanted was someone who would be true.all i ever wanted was someone like you

Loving is not how you forget but how you forgive, not how you listen but how you understand, not what you see but how you feel, and not how you let go but how you hold on.

Every Hour I think of you
Every Minute I think of you
Every Second I think of you
I live for you and I die for you
It's not for days, It's not for weeks,
It's not for months or years, It's for ever.

Love is what I see in, your smile every day.
Love is what I feel in, every touch you give.
Love is what I hear in, every word you say.
Love is what we share, every day we live.

Seasons will Change,
Colours will Fade,
But....One thing that will Never Change...
The way that I Feel about you..
And....One thing that will Never Fade that is My LOVE 4 you.....
I LOVE U SO MUCH

To be honest with you, I do not have the words to make you feel better, but I do have the arms to give you a hug, ears to listen to whatever you want to talk about, and I have a heart; a heart that is aching to see you smile again.

The way you look into my eyes, It scares me
The way you say "I love you", It scares me
The way you know just what to say, It scares me
The ways you scare me, I love it

I have seen angels in the sky,
I have seen snowfall in july,
I have seen things you only imagine to see,
But I have not seen anything sweeter than you.

your love is like a river peaceful and deep,
your soul is like a secret that I never could keep,
When I look into your eyes I know its true,
you were made for me and I for you

Here is my heart, it is yours so take it,
Treat it gently, please do not break it.
Its full of love thats good and true,
So please keep it always close to u.

I Promised you once, I promise you twice, this love will never end that i feel so deep inside, I loved you yesterday and even more today and i never want this feeling to go away, Baby you are my Everything, my Angel from above, you feel my life with so much love.

If you have a boy friend or a girl friend and you have a mobile, don't wait, just write these lovely romantic sms messages on your mobile phone and send to your loved ones. If he or she really loves you, you will get a reply with more romantic sms message. Exchange these love sms on this Valentines day.

You may see more Love sms Valentines sms messages on our website.

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Do you truly want to get rid of those love handles? Take these steps and in a few months you won't recognize yourself. Realize that if you truly want to change your body, including your love handles, you’ll have to change the way you think – about food, about exercise, and about your life in general.

That being said, here are some of the ways to get moving.

1. Get moving! If you're currently not exercising, start. You don't have to run a 5k or half marathon to start getting rid of your love handles, but even a small amount of exercise will increase the rate at which you lose weight, including weight around your love handles. And you'll probably live longer, too.

2. Limit starches and junk food. There is absolutely no reason why you need to eat 3 servings of butter mashed potatoes. Sure, they may taste delicious, but starches are what make most people fat.

3. Eat low glycemic foods. Foods that spike your blood sugar, such as starches, simple sugars, and high fructose corn syrup (read the label), will keep you fatter than Bill Gates' wallet.

4. Limit alcohol consumption. Drinking a six pack every night or 4 glasses of wine is not drinking in moderation.

5. Get some sleep. If you're going to bed late and waking up early, your body is going to be "off" and you won't lose weight.

6. Drink plenty of water. Besides making up 70% of our bodies, it helps flush out your system and keep those fat cells burning and exiting your system.

7. Think long term. If your goal is to lose 10 pounds, you might do it, but you'll let up once you get down about 7 or 8 pounds. Instead, make your goal "living a long energetic life." If you have them, grandkids and children can be great motivation.

8. HIIT - High Intensity Interval Training. Hate running for 20 - 40 minutes? HIIT will melt fat off you faster and in less time than long cardio workouts. 8 - 12 minutes of HIIT, 3 times per week, for 6 six weeks and you'll need a new wardrobe. Highly recommended!

9. When you get to a point where you feel better about yourself, go even harder. Most people will let up once they reach their goal. Don't do it. Maintain and then keep getting better.

10. You don't need a gym membership or anything other than your own body to get in the best shape of your life. Bodyweight and isometric exercises are safe and effective, not to mention a lot cheaper than your $40 - $80 per month gym membership. Here are list of exercises that you can do to get started. Pushups, burpees, hindu pushups, hindu squats, jump rope, the vacuum (way more effective than crunches for a tight midsection!).

11. Make time to get in shape and live well. You'll never "find" the time to do anything. If you have to, wake up 20 minutes earlier. After a week, it'll be your new routine.

Now you know how to get rid of love handles or at least know how to get started. It really comes down to a few basic things like eating well and exercising. But before you put those into action, you have to be in the right mindset. You’ll have to change the way you think about food and exercise. If you don’t change the way you think, you’ll be back to Lovehandlesville on the fast train.

Want to learn how to get rid of love handles even faster? A highly recommended resource is Craig Ballantyne’s book titled Turbulence Training. You can learn more about his book and his controversial fat loss report at http://www.TurbulenceTrainingSite.com

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You may be thinking that this sounds absurd, yet it is what many religions continue to tell me. It is one of the many reasons I could never stay locked into a religion. I have a much grander view of God.

I have been very blessed in this life with parents who provided a complete, amazing childhood and an environment of support to be nurtured in. They also offered their Unconditional Love, always. I’ve come to realize that unconditional is the only actual love there is. Everything else is something less disguised as love…period.

Maybe you have not experienced the power of this kind of world. I hope that you have at least discovered God’s unconditional love for you. I will take it a step further. If you believe in an eternal hell that God will send certain sinners to upon their death then you believe in a God who does not offer unconditional love. That is a God made in the image of man. It’s just backwards.

Man judges. We all know this and experience it on a daily basis. Even though the Bible says, “Judge not, lest ye be judged.” This is one way in which we all create our own little versions of hell to live in, or at least our mental prisons. Judgment limits. There is no way around that. The moment you judge something as good or bad, right or wrong, or as the one way, you have essentially cut off other avenues, which may have merit. You do not allow other ideas in, and so you become closed-minded. This absolutely limits you, yet the nature of your spirit is limitless.

This also creates fear in your heart. Fear that if you don’t behave in a proper manner, one that God approves of, then you will sentence yourself to eternal damnation. Can you see how that outlook serves to keep you restricted and confined? Spirit never restricts! Religion restricts. Spiritual life is about finding your bliss, the gift you decided to bring into this material plane, and then following that path with courage. It will lead to an adventurous life, certainly not a restricted one.

Once you fully realize that God’s love contains no conditions or restrictions you begin to feel a freedom like never before. It will be a freedom from worry and fear, which keep you from moving toward your true passion. A God that loves you, no matter what, would not damn you to any eternal hell, which of course does not exist in the first place.

As I researched the concept of judgment, I became curious as to what the accepted antonym of the word “judgment” is, but I could not find one. I have since come up with my own opposite of judgment. That word is …freedom! If judgment limits us, then a non-judgmental acceptance of the world and people as they are frees us! I have practiced this to the best of my ability and found it to be true. Sure, I backslide at times and find myself in judgment mode; but now I can pull myself out of that much faster and easier. It’s easy to determine if I am judging as it negatively affects the way I feel.

Pay attention to the way you feel about someone or some concept as you move forward. If you begin to feel angry or frustrated, just notice what it is that you are concentrating on about that person or idea. Answer the question, why does it make me feel like this? Now imagine that God did create a perfect world and we are each free to do exactly what we want, which is expressing God through our own experience here. Understand that right and wrong are merely labels we use to determine which experiences or ideas serve our unique purpose in that endeavor, but God will never stand in judgment of them!

Michael Celender is an experienced speaker, coach, consultant, writer, teacher and therapist who has dedicated his professional life to developing skills and untapped potential in others. To learn more visit http://www.unleashthehero.com

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Every person has their own unique way of loving another and yet there are some laws that are Universal. No matter what age, language, color or sex, these laws govern the way we fall in LOVE. They also govern the way we experience LOVE.

Two people can be happily in LOVE, each with a different idea of what LOVE is. Whether they stare ‘into each others eyes’ or ‘out upon the world together’, theirs can be true LOVE if that is the way they choose to experience it.

BUT, the simplest thing such as an unreturned phone call, or a glance in the wrong direction can turn off a potential mate in an instant. It can turn off that thing called LOVE in its earliest stage of blossoming.

So how do I avoid that from happening, you ask? How do I master the Art of LOVE?

It’s simple when you understand THE 5 LAWS OF LOVE.

1. The Law of Attraction

A magnetic force, which draws two people together. Perhaps the heart beats a little faster, the breath catches in the chest, or there are shivers down the spine. In much the same way that a pile of iron filings reacts to a magnet moving over them.

2. The Law of Connection

When you find yourselves finishing each other’s sentences and/or going “I know what you mean”. You find out things about each other like: you were both a middle child, or you were born in the same year/month or city, you have the same favorite food or enjoy the same hobbies. This type of familiarity creates a connection between two people as if they know each another. It can feel very safe and comfortable. It is the experience of knowing and loving the soul of another.

3. The Law of Acceptance

When you can be totally yourself and feel no judgment.

4. The Law of Inspiration

When being with the other person, even thinking of them gives you a sense of wanting to be and do more, to be the best that you can be.

5. The Law of Trust

When you feel completely secure with your partner and do not question their sincerity, because ‘as doubt creeps into a relationship, so LOVE creeps out!’

Due to social conditioning and different belief systems each of us has different values for this thing called LOVE. Whatever your values are and whatever LOVE means to you, there is one thing for certain:

“If you experience these 5 things with your significant other and them with you, YOU HAVE A WINNING COMBINATION!”

Tanya Haden Tebb is a Clinical Hypnotherapist and Author of "The Goddess Secrets" http://www.how-to-attract-men.com

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The relationship between men and women in Islam is addressed in the Qur'an and further in the Sunnah. Islam explains to us how to achieve tranquility in marriage and how to reach the highest potential in all other aspects of life.

[ And one of His [Allah's] signs is that He created mates for you from yourselves that you may find tranquillity in them, and He put between you love and mercy; most surely there are signs in this for people who reflect.) (Ar-Rum 30:21)

Inspired by our belief that better communication within Muslim families, especially between husbands and wives, is the cornerstone for building a strong, actively involved family, we wanted to shed some light on what we believe happens often in many marriage stories.

A relationship between a husband and a wife is like a garden; if it's to thrive, it must be watered regularly, with "weather hazards" taken into account, such as any unpredictable draught or storm. New seeds must be sown, and weeds must be pulled out (Gray).

Love's Springtime
The Prophet said, "Nothing is better for those in love than marriage."
(Ibn Majah and authenticated by Al-Albani)

One fatwa of Shiekh Al-Qaradawi, the prominent Muslim scholar, states what means that love is lawful in Islam as long as that love comes in spite of the person, that person doesn't go out of the way especially to seek these emotions, and that all Islamic guidelines are kept in mind. However, there is a suggestion that the traditional route for marriage usually has better results.

The beginning of love is its springtime; this is when you feel that you will stay happy forever. This corresponds to the Islamic engagement and `aqd (official documentation of marriage) time and may last for a few months before marriage! During that time, you always find excuses to your partner's mistakes; you may even become unable to see the mistakes or differences. But this fire of emotions in many cases does not stay forever. Marriage and family therapist Glenn Lutjens suggests that this change takes place in every relationship because of three factors:time, distance, and desire.

Time. When you get married, you have more time to observe your spouse's behavior. You see things that weren't so noticeable at "springtime."

Distance. You now see him up close. There's no "see you next week." You now see him when he's hungry and tired. Women may have their "time of the month," and men have their "time of the day"! When his stomach is empty, you may see a whole new side of your man you never knew existed.

Desire. Some of the behavior during those days probably wasn't so deliberate. That type of romantic fire shapes one's actions; loving deeds come easily to one so smitten by romance. You probably felt the same excitement, with your reactions being affected as well. We tend to construct a person in our minds to match the excitement we want to feel. We mentally vision that person in a way that will make us happiest.

Love's Summertime
Eventually we realize that our partner is not as perfect as we thought and that we have to work on our relationship. Plants need to be watered even more frequently under a hot sun; this is how the relationship between a husband and a wife should be enriched when it's no longer easy to give or to get love. Therefore, always remember Prophet Muhammad's advice:

Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) as saying: A believing man [husband] should not hate a believing woman [his wife]; if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another. (Sahih Muslim. Book 8, Number 3469)

Many couples become disillusioned after a few of months in wedlock. They give up working on the relationship and blame one another. They forget that it cannot be "springtime" all the time. Yet, no one wants to live in summer forever. So hold your breath and gather all the wisdom that Allah gave you to go through this stage and reach the tranquility, mercy, and love mentioned in the verse. These will be the lasting, calm, and warm emotions of love between a husband and wife who are living for the sake of Allah.

You can think that way: Is this the person I want to continue the rest of my life with? If the answer is "no," then you will not be willing to invest much in this relation anyway, you will give it a weak try and then give up. If the answer is "yes," then the question becomes "What do I do now that I found out my partner in not what I thought?" Debating whether your partner misrepresented himself or herself or you misread your partner won't solve anything. Here are some things you may consider doing:

Choose to love your partner. Remember that it's Allah Who makes the "love and mercy happen between the husband and the wife.

Seek Allah's help and ask Him to make that "chemistry" happen. Also, open your heart and give your partner the benefit of doubt; stand in your partner's shoes and try to see things from his or her perspective.

Look at how you may have changed as well after marriage.

You will not be able to actually change someone. All you can do is provide a different and favorable environment for your partner to want to change.

Realize that you may have legitimate concerns.Voice them to your partner in a constructive way with the hope that he or she will be willing to work toward change or at least understand your concerns.

Express with respect. Use "I-messages": "I" feel and "I" think, not "you" did such and such.

Invest in this family. Paradise is worth your best effort. A little whisper in the wife's ear is, "Allah made one important mission in this life which is to make this family happy." The motive is wonderful. The Prophet said, "If a woman prayed the five prayers, fasted in Ramadan, protected her honor, and obeyed her husband, then she will be told (on the Day of Judgment): Enter Paradise from any of its (eight) doors". (Ibn Hibban)

Do not listen to voices like "He is no better than you are! Why do you have to listen?" The Prophet mentioned the advice for a reason, so do not ruin your life. Instead, invite love to your house and be patient. It is love and happiness in this life and Paradise in the hereafter

www.islamonline.net

Sources:
Gray, John. Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. New York: HarperCollins Publishers, 1992.

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Have you ever felt extremely sad, abandoned, unloved, and all of a sudden received an insight that gives you temporary relief from your anguish? Or, have you felt that you have no future now that your loved one is not going to be with you, and then in a flash you see something you can do to keep the struggle for survival alive? Where does this information come from? Who or what is behind it?

Henri Nouwen, the world’s best-selling spiritual writer, says it comes from the inner voice of love, what others might call your spirit guides, guardian angels, God, or your deceased loved one. The science community would give it to intuition, the sudden knowing without reasoning that springs from within.

Of importance here is: how can you deliberately seek it out in order to cope with the loss of your loved one? How can you keep from being completely absorbed in your pain—one of the mistakes we all make at one time or another. Here are some useful considerations.

1. Find a place either in your home, church, or in nature where you know you will not be disturbed or where silence reigns. Rest in a comfortable position for a few minutes. Scan your body for tension and visualize any tense muscle as a stretched rubber band. Now use your imagination and see the tense muscle shorten and relax. Take your time.

2. Keep a pen and paper on your person or nearby so you can write down whatever comes into conscious awareness. Now ask God, your Higher Power, angel, spirit guide, or your loved one to come to help you in your great time of need. As you sit quietly, be alert to whatever images come into your awareness, sounds you may hear, or feelings you may have. Jot down whatever you feel is significant. Later, meditate on what you have written.

3. Next, ask where you should turn to find the right person or persons to share your deepest feelings about your great loss. Your inner voice will lead you to those whose love will help ease your pain. Listen patiently. Look for a clue from the images that pop into your mind, after you complete stating the question.

4. Ask what you need to know, or what course of action you need to take, to deal with the deep emotions you are feeling. Treat your inner conversation the same way you would treat a best friend who was in your presence. Again, write down what comes into your mind.

5. Be willing to accept an image that pops into your awareness that you did not expect. Perhaps it might be a bird, a landscape, a pet, or another animal. Consider the symbolic meaning of this appearance and how it can be of use in your grief work, and the adjustment to your new surroundings.

6. What should you do if you feel you have had no response to your request? Just as we have been advised to persist when we pray, the same applies in seeking the inner voice of love. It will appear, but not necessarily on your schedule. You may receive insight in a dream or vision. Or later, you may suddenly receive a thought or message when you least expect it. In any event, be consistent in establishing a daily time to listen to your inner voice.

7. And what if an unwanted thought, sad image, or a punitive or authoritarian figure from your past comes to mind? Pause and decide if it carries any meaning or something to learn (for example, the punitive figure could remind you of what not to do in a relationship). Then dispatch it as easily as it appeared by immediately switching all of your attention back to your request. Don’t give it power by letting it hang around. Refocus.

In summary, identify with the love within and trust your inner voice to give you the new awareness you need to see your loss in an accepting light. Of course, this is not easy to do, even though it is the only course of action that will lead to peace. With each search within you are developing your spiritual base.

Consistently ask for the insight and courage to face your new conditions of existence and learn to embrace the unpredictable. Look for repeating inner signs that you may have overlooked when they first appeared. Allow the love within to help you rise above and see you through this transformation. You are loved forever.

Dr. LaGrand is a grief counselor and the author of eight books, the most recent, the popular Love Lives On: Learning from the Extraordinary Encounters of the Bereaved. He is known world-wide for his research on the Extraordinary Experiences of the bereaved (after-death communication phenomena) and is one of the founders of Hospice of the St. Lawrence Valley, Inc. His free monthly ezine website is http://www.extraordinarygriefexperiences.com

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I stayed away from you. But life has sent me through. I picked up this pen again to write about my feelings and my rues. I had strange visions as I wept through the night. I Didn't know what to do.

Words did not describe how I felt. as material happiness entered my mind I was an enemy unto myself. Temporal gratification my thoughts were the selfish kind.

I tossed and I wrestled against thistles and thorns. Through Faith in you I was reborn. Traveling as a pilgrim with out a Home. You were with me all the while I roamed.

Your rod and staff kept my life in line. You are the good Shepherd God’s gift to mankind. I dare not trust in anything that I see, because Your unseen hand has given me victory.

Joy came today. It put a smile on my face This Joy that I have is so full of grace. You silence was golden, it gave me time to repent. Not to waddle in sin, or to straddle the fence.

I put my trust in you that day. I ran in faith to your holy word. Studying for your approval you blessed that way. Giving you spirit on the wings of birds I now realize your word is true everlasting and as fresh as the morning dew

Have you ever wrestled with a problem? Have you awakened at night only to find a pillow wet with tears? Weeping may endure for a night but joy comes in the morning. In whom do you put your trust? My hope is built on nothing less than Jesus Christ and his tenderness. Its just good to know Jesus. Its just good to know the lord. This poem is a prayer of understanding that God is in control and sovereign.

Born in Shreveport Louisiana. Moved to Baton Rouge Louisiana at age 20. Now I live in Humble Texas. I have a B.A. in Philosophy. Currently employed by The Department of the Treasury. Married with Children. I love to write and tell stories. I am a church Deacon. Everyone that I meet is a friend. I see life as an opportunity to learn to explore and of course to write.

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